Inco.....and DL?

[Patrick]

The idea that a magic wand could somehow restore my continence is a fantasy. That my incontinence would be life-long, with no hope of cure, was a major problem for me. The surgeon who did my sphincterotomy explained my situation in matter-of-fact tones, then left my hospital room. At the time I was in intense pain, living on morphine; the possibility of a bleak future in diapers was secondary. I wanted relief, and I did not want to put my name on the kidney transplant list. Only after I came out of anesthesia did I begin to think about how I would need to adjust my thinking and my lifestyle, with no hope of a cure. That was a huge challenge, one that I may never overcome.

My problem with AB/DL folk is not so much their fetish and titilation; rather it centers on my independence. I have needed assistance with diapering chores too often in the past, and may need that assistance again in the future. However, I will defend my independence for as long as I can; its loss is more threatening than mere incontinence.

[sjpersonal]

I agree with you Maria but I also am glad that the fetish squad is out there only because they force a better product to be made. I cannot imagine being stuck in a product like Depends or some other generic brand of disposable.

I understand that very well. I can't decide whether I'm glad because they have had this effect, or angry because the industry only listens to them.

I know very well what it is to be stuck with Depends and the like, because that is what I have been using mostly all this time, and that is also the reason that I have these very mixed feelings right now.

It's products such as those that we may be stuck with only because we have had no real choices. We have to wear diapers of some sort. That makes us a pretty much captive group. Based on that the diaper companies may only make a cheap product because they know we have to keep purchasing. The other group want something else from a diaper and the smart companies have responded for which we can benefit.

Economics isn't my strong point, but I have always thought that a demand creates supply. So maybe we weren't demanding loudly enough?

I imagine that this is how it went:

- (society) only babies wear diapers.
- (society) when babies grow up, they no longer need to wear diapers
- (society) therefore logically, if someone who is not a baby wears a diaper, they are reverting to being a baby again
- (society) we can't be having with that!
- (society) thus, if for some reason people who are not babies need some form of protective wear because they leak: they. Cannot. Wear. Diapers. Period.
- (society) what can we give these bothersome leaking people to wear? Obviously, something that absorbs, because they leak. It just can't be a diaper (see above)
- (absorbent product designer) Here, leaking people! We got you some discrete protective non-diaper underwear! Just throw it into the bin if you're done leaking.
- (leaking people) Thanks, discrete absorbent product designer! We appreciate it, but to be honest: these non-diaper protective briefs of yours aren't a patch on the good old diapers and waterproof pants we used to get!
- (society) EEEK! Did we just hear the D-word? Shoo! Bad, naughty leaking people! Shut up! You're not supposing that you are turning into BABIES, now aren't you? GGRAR! Grow up! Shoo!
- (leaking people) Er. Got some more of those non-diaper briefs?
- (environment) *choking sound*
- (leaking people) *sigh*

time ticks away ... and guess who's there? Enters Mr. Ab-Dl.

- (Mr. Ab-Dl) Hi, Society! Guess what? We really, really fancy being like a baby again. It's very kinky, but hey, free speech, free sexuality, free entertainment!
- (society) hmmm ... it's kinda gross, but they've got a point ...
- (Mr. Ab-Dl) Hiya, Absorbent Product Designer! We got +$$$ to spend! Look at this cute baby diaper .. if you make me a dozen of those in adult sizes, you'll be rewarded handsomely! Oh, make that two dozen, and also another one with pokemon prints on them!
- (absorbent product designer) *changes name to Acme Kinky Baby Wear Inc.*
- (Acme Kinky Baby Wear Inc) Hiya, Mr. Ab-Dl! Here's your order *CASH REGISTER SOUNDS*
- (Mr. Ab-Dl) whoohooo! And they even function like the real thing used to!
- (Acme Kinky Baby Wear Inc) Sure, Mr. Ab-Dl! At your service!
- (leaking people) hey, did you hear that? Those Acme Kinky Diapers absorb six times as good as our largest discrete absorbent still-non-diaper product does. Hey, society! What's that? Have you gone completely cuckoo?

Maybe we should sell the script to Hollywood and create our own brand with the earnings

Great point I hate how society is like this with Incontinent people :'( I have been incontinent since a spinal issue came ahead in 2009 and hate I am supposed to call them continence aids I would rather call a spade a spade so my nappy (Im in Australia) if I have to wear high quality plastic backed most are aimed at the ABDL crowd in Australia as all the medical suppliers are cloth backed :'(