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Ted, I definitely understand the need to accept but don't look at it like a bad thing. It is healthy, besides, what other viable choice do you have?

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Hi Porkchop, This incon thing is really getting tiring for me. I can chase the carrot with the Urological tests and "maybe" get an answer. The problem though is that the cure is worse than the illness for me. I've been coping for years and the real issue for me has been a sense of being rejected by everyone I know and love. By coming clean after a unfortunate circumstance these issues have been overcome by letting them know. I figured if there were an easy or straightforward fix to incontinence then I was all in. Unfortunately that's not the case. The drugs aren't looking too good at this point. Sure I can try med#2, or #3, etc, etc. I'm just getting tired of the whole thing. There is absolutely nothing that has changed from what I have been dealing with before seeing the doctor. Except now I'm not carrying the guilt and embarrassment around any more. My GP seems to feel like me, that there isn't any dangerous issues involved with my problems. So I guess I'd like to let the whole thing go and wear protection.

My uncasted broken arm hurts like hell and has me more or less housebound. I'm seeing that there's issues worse than having an wetting accident. Upcoming hand surgery is going to add to this for several months of considerable pain. Funny how life keeps changing the viewpoint of what's important. I think what I'm looking for is some way to wrap up and resolve my incontinence issues. Once and for all. At this point diapers are a very viable option to the whole issue. Thanks for your comments Porkchop, Ted

@Ted: Definitely, and I too had to reach the point that chasing the pharmaceutical compass was bad for my health; mentally and physically. The side effects were worse than pissing myself and with two young kids I can't afford to be bedridden. Besides, if I can't get out of the bed I didn't help the incontinence since I can't get to the potty anyway! Ultimately, accepting the diapers was about me taking back the control that I'd previously ceded to my bladder. Since then I feel better and move around more. Still haven't told anyone, nor will I likely do so, but if they find out naturally it is okay too.

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Porkchop, Heh heh, With young kids it won't be long before they know. My little hellions were into EVERYTHING. Just try to figure out what you want to them when they ask. Kids are amazingly resilient so they'll handle the truth better than you can imagine. Besides,kids can't help but love their Dad

p.s. my kids both know and still love me way too much....

I also have a youngling. I can't imagine how I would function if I was trying to keep secret, and I only wear at night. He definitely aware that daddy wears diapers at night, and doesn't seem to think anything of it.

I guess I am just still embarrassed by things.... and with my youngest being autistic and not fully continent we try not to muddy the waters. If he found out that daddy, who he tries to copy in every little mannerism, still wore diapers he may never try addressing his own issues.

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Understood. It's nice that he tries to be like you though. My heart goes out to you. My wife teaches disabled kids. They're really neat loving and caring young people but boy they're a handful.

Ted, we are working on hiring attendants to relieve some of the pressure! And yes, we do have a special bond that is wonderful!

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