I’ve been incontinent all my life. I’m early 40’s, married, two sons, and have been sharing on this site for a few years. I’ve also found a friend here that has helped me feel a lot better about myself and my incontinence, to the point where my depression episodes all but disappeared while sharing with her. Unfortunately, my husband found out about my confiding with her and read my private posts with her. The short story is that he became angry about not being my confidante and a few other things. He doesn’t seem to get that though I love him beyond words, sometimes he doesn’t get women’s issues. I had found someone with whom I opened up about my issues and feelings, and felt a calm that I don’t always feel with discussing with him. As a result, I’ve fallen into a deep depression a few times since my husband asked me not to communicate with her. This I’m afraid is affecting our marriage and has shown me that he is very controlling and in many ways selfish. We barely speak of my incontinence issues like we used to and that makes me feel like a lot of our open communication we shared (about everything) is suffering badly. I cut off all communication with her, as he requested, but now I feel like I’m in a dark box with the walls closing in. I love him dearly and cherish our family but I feel like exploding much of the time. As a result, my incontinence seems to have gotten worse, if that’s possible! I could use a little encouragement.....
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