Patrick0212
Welcome to the community.
I too am a bedwetter and also suffer urge incontinence that means I wear diapers 24/7!
The wealth and depth of knowledge including the primer (link below) always surprises me and the support that is available has helped on countless occasions! This support enabled me to embrace who I am now, has given me the confidence that I was not alone with what I am going through and has given me the tools I need to take control of my life. I thought having incontinence was the end of the world but it is not. The biggest lesson I learnt is that I can control my incontinence with careful management, planning and adaptation. Yes I had to accept this change was inevitable and my mindset shifted to wearing 24/7. I am in a lot happier place now and incontinence is nothing to fear!
You are so so lucky to have a partner who is on your side!
Take care of yourself and feel free to vent as I have on numerous occasions!
Greenbank
http://www.incontinentsupport.org/primer_index.php