Well I have been married to my current wife for more than 8 years now. We have a son who's turning 7 years old in a couple of months. We loved each other limitless from the beginning when we met and this continued basically until sometime after I started showing signs of incontinence.
How has my incontinence affected my wife? In the beginning she was supportive about it, though she didn't help with anything which I actually was glad for. In my opinnion it's a very private thing having to deal with, I also never walks in when she's in the bathroom.
However I can sense that over time, my wife has somehow changed her sperspective on me. We are not as close as we used to, before I started having wetting accidents and resorted to use protection, she crawled into me when in bed, also in the morning. Now....she stays in her side of the bed, far out, sex and general intimacy is almost gone, she doens't in any way initiate sex, and when I did ask her, why, her answer was that she thought I didn't want to do it because of my condition etc. Well I told her that during the act, the male atonomy didn't alow anything unexpected to happen...for some time we continued though with much less frequency to be intimate.
Now, it's close to three months since last time, and she have not approached me since, yea the usual goodbye kisses in the morning, but even these kisses feel wrong to me.
Am I overreacting? or.....I have started to consider ending the marriage, as I don't want to live my life with someone who cannot support me, I keep saying to myself, that tomorrow will be better, but no. I remember our wedding wows, especially for better or for worse (Or what you call it in English) translated directly from Danish "in sickness and everything" but she isn't.....she's keep a distance to me....and I hate it, and I'm afraid I'll start hate her for it, at some point.
I'm sorry, but I have to vent about this. What is your experiences in regard to you're partners reaction on you nad the fact you either wet yourself, have accidents and resort to wearing protection in any form.
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