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I really hate and embarrassed to ask this IRL atm.
Just medically wondering is there medications to force people to need to urinate or leak as I have both spinal nerve issues and Autism both that causes not to notice the need to go until about 600ml yet the normal adult bladder volume is 350ml I have been told is unhealthy yet when trying timed toileting I cant release anything? As it is I am in diapers full time due to bladder issues as well as have to take laxatives full time due to not feeling the need to go no 2 until every 3ish days even then I strain due to spinal nerve issues as well as pain medications.
I am also needing to learn to psychologically accept all my disabilities and not suppress them as I am a ticking time bomb mentally according to my therapists and I guess this means diaper dependency as I cant just not take all prescribed laxatives as well as isolate myself incase of bowel accidents. Hope this is not offensive just need help as my psychologist has postponed all follow ups due to corona virus

I too am double incontinent, and for similar reasons.

My bowel incontinence is caused by a paralyzed GI system. My bladder incontinence is caused by a spinal nerve injury. The bladder issue is managed with Myrbetriq; the bowel problem is managed by several medications, enemas and diet. The problem with Myrbetriq is that it causes high blood pressure, which can be fatal, because I have several cardiac and blood vessel anomalies. For years I managed bladder issues with a sphincterotomy. Instead of an occasional flood, I leaked small amounts continually, which was much easier to manage; I hope to have the sphincterotomy renewed this summer (COVID 19 permitting), which will permit me to stop using Myrbetriq.. The GI paralysis is much more difficult to manage. I take Nullo or another internal deodorant with every solid meal. I also take a stool softener with every solid meal. I use a strong laxative about once or twice each week, a glycerin suppository most evenings, enemas as needed, and my physical therapist is teaching me bowel massage. The diet is a real challenge. Fiber (oranges, grapefruit, prunes, oatmeal, cabbage, etc.) is forbidden. When I disobey that order, I can get intense bowel pain. However, lack of fiber is constipating, hence the medications. Most of my therapy sessions are devoted to matching diet to medication for optimal effect. Although I hope this will be useful for you, do not take it as gospel. I don't. Continual experimentation is the order of the day. Report back when you can, and good luck.

just in the last month or so found out that i have adult tethered cord syndrome it may be something yall may want to look in to i go about 3 to 4 days and have super loose number 2 for about 2 days and my bladder well it will not hold 1 drop most the time i am dribbling while being changed 4 out of 5 times i am getting changed