Hi All! I've become a little conflicted lately and would welcome your thoughts as I struggle with something.
First some quick background: I've been wearing diapers for neurogenic bladder & OAB for a couple years now (has it been that long???). First it was only to bed for night time accidents that evolved into nightly wettings. Then daytime issues became frequent enough that I decided to go 24/7. My urologist determined that my issues must have been caused by overuse of sinus pills (yeah, I know, didn't make sense to me, either, but he's the doc) and did TUIP surgery to help flow and empty my bladder. After the surgery, I lost all control, but after a few months regained enough control that, most days I could go without a diaper as long as I was close to a bathroom and did timed voiding.
Over this past summer, I found out after going to the spine clinic, that my issues are actually due to low back injury and degeration, which I'm told will get progressively worse over time, and the best I can do is try to slow the process and manage the pain. A few months ago I started having bowel incontinence that has progressed to daily occurrences. Fortunately, it happens in the morning, so as of now, I don't worry about it too much the rest of the day. How this all plays out is that I am diapered at least from the time I go to bed until I get through my morning routine. If things seem to be cooperating, I can still usually go without a diaper most of the day. What I am finding recently, however, is that the times I feel comfortable risking it are lessening. The northeast Ohio winter doesn't help, as the cold makes me instantly have to go, and I don't have much ability to hold it. So, for the past couple weeks, I'm back to 24/7.
Now for the $64,000 question (youngsters can Google the reference, lol): Do I keep fighting it and trying to maintain what control I have left? I've been struggling with this recently. I managed to live pretty well during the 9 months I was 24/7 before, so I know that it won't significantly affect my world. The reality is that, even when things are cooperating, I am still spending well over half my life diapered, including every night and morning, meetings, travel, long car rides, whenever things don't seem to be cooperating, and any other time getting to a restroom quickly would be problematic. I guess I'm at a crossroads in that I'm not sure I see the point in continuing to try to maintain that little bit of control. It is stressful and, frankly, control is only good if you can count on it. Conversely, I feel that if I go back to diapers 24/7, there will be no turning back at this point...I'm sure I will lose what control I have left. But is it really worth prolonging the inevitable? I just keep hearing "why bother" going through my head...
I usually try to be very positive about my situation and try to help others on here and other sites, but once in a while, I do still struggle. I know my question is nothing new here - just throwing it out there for any thoughts you all might have. You, collectively, have helped me immensely throughout this journey, and I truly appreciate your input.
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