wwboy wrote:
So with this news, essentially I feel some combination of embarrassed/ashamed/foolish/silly/freakish/crazy....The doctor didn’t say something to lead me to these feelings...it was more like what he didn’t say. It feels like I am left with the unspoken judgment that “it’s all in my head” or “you need to relearn how to use your bladder properly because there is nothing wrong with it” or “since there is nothing physically wrong with your body, the problem is between your ears.”.
This is a very common reaction sometimes it takes years to find a cause and some people don't ever find the "cause". but I must stress just because the doctors don't know of "the" reason it does not mean there is no reason! and I think many of us get that reaction or even have been told "it's in your head" but I personally reject that as a lazy excuse. If a doctor would tell me that I would go to another doctor because they clearly are not interested in finding the cause,
personally I grew up with issues and While I have no recollection of what the doctors said to my parents the way they treated me and my issue clearly they believed "it was in my head" or "I would grow out of it" it was not until I was 26 and my issues were increasing more as I aged that I went to have a surgical treatment to try to discover and treat my issue that when my Aunt of all people told me about a birth defect I had that may have been a cause or trigger.. and it turns out it was! my parents never told me this! up until this time I Had beliefs it was in my head!
So please don't let this get you down and don't let people or your thoughts let you think that there must be something wrong with your mind or feelings, I would bet if you have an issue you do and its ok if you don't find out right now
you are not crazy, silly, or foolish for experiencing issues its ok to be frustrated, worried but I can say this does not need to limit you! I wish you great success in finding your "reason"
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