Papa wrote:
Well... unless you are going around the neighborhood in just your print diaper it hardly matters what they look like, right? If nothing else you might get a laugh out of the prints, or at least a smile. It amazes me that so many somehow think that a printed wet diaper on them somehow is more babyish or whatever than an all white wet diaper on them - pretty much the same thing i would say. If there is anything one would associate with being babyish it is diapers, especially wet diapers. We are adults, we wear, and wet/mess them. We work, we love, we help others, pay taxes, drive cars/trucks, etc etc etc. All the so called baby things can't change who we are, we are people. Some of us are younger and some older, but we are all adults. And yes, this part of our lives which we never asked for and often drives us to an edge and can anger us and sadden us and often frustrate us is also something we are handling as best we can. We handle it BECAUSE we are adults. We know what we have to do (wear) and we wear it and go on. Period. If you can laugh at yourself, a good quality, wear the teddy bears or what ever because you are not going to become someone you are not and the extra $$$$ will also make you smile. Papa
I love this, Papa! This clearly and concisely puts into words the thoughts that have been swirling around in my head since my incontinence worsened and I made the decision to wear 24/7 after struggling with it for some time. This type of thinking is what I have to keep telling myself as I try to navigate life in a wet diaper! Though there are times I get VERY down about it, I try my best to "own" it.
To jump back into the thread topic, part of "owning it" for me is to make the best decisions I can about products that work for me. I search the various suppliers and take advantage of sales when I can. I figure I'm going to be in diapers the rest of my life, so why not save a few bucks when deals are available? I've bought quality printed plastic pants because the white versions were often twice as expensive (3 X as much for certain "big name" pants) and ya know what? They have held up better than the "name" ones and the only people that see me in 'em are me and my wife. The first couple times I ordered diapers with prints, I felt a little funny about it, but I decided that it was worth it to me to save a little money, and besides, I used to have several colors and styles of underwear, so why not diapers, which are my new underwear? While I wish the prints were so "babyish," I really don't pay attention to them anyway.
One thing I have found interesting since joining this forum (which has helped me immeasurably BTW) is the different ways people deal with their situation and their thought processes behind what they do. In my case, I think about my situation almost continually, and my wife and I realized, early on, that the best way for me to survive and thrive is to not take myself or my situation too seriously. We laugh and joke about it. We talk about it. We have let select people know about it. I'm to the point where 95 percent of the time, I really don't give a s#@% about it or if someone finds out (though I still try to be discrete). Many decisions I've/we've made in how to deal with my incontinence have been related to avoiding or limiting anxiety. I know not everyone can take this approach, but it's what works for me. It is much the same with products, you have to make the best decision for you, and if it gives you anxiety to wear printed diapers, then don't. One thing I've learned is that, though we are all on the same journey, our destinations may be very different and we may take infinite routes to get there. Good luck and I hope whatever decision you make is the right decision for you!
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