Having recently retired from the FD, I was asked by the Chief from another department to help cover openings and vacations on an "as needed" basis at his station - a day or two a week at most, some teaching, advising, etc. We met to discuss it this afternoon. I struggled with whether I should tell him of my situation, as it doesn't affect my ability to do the job. I finally decided he should know, based on a couple scenarios: 1. Someone could find out, say something to him, and it would come out of nowhere, or 2. (more significantly) On a busy day running back-to-back calls or a long-lasting emergency scene, I may have to get away for a few minutes to change my diaper. While neither situation is likely to happen working one or two days a week, it was something I felt I should disclose. Ya know what??? He was completely good with it and understanding. He had no idea I had to wear diapers, and said it seemed that I was dealing with it well! He asked if things would get better, etc., then we moved on to what roles he wanted me to fill.
I wanted to share this to show that, while there are some people out there who would make an issue of it, there are also those who understand, don't bat an eye, and don't see you any differently. I know not everyone has been as lucky as I have, but maybe reading this will help someone who dreads having to tell a boss, co-worker, etc. about their situation. At least in my experience so far, I've been really fortunate that anyone I've told has been cool about it and supportive.
_________________ "When you die, on your deathbed, you will receive total consciousness. So I got that goin' for me, which is nice."
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