Thank you Patrick and Tom, for your kind words. I think the situation is ten times as worse now, because the other day I did a very rash thing! My emotions are all over the place at the moment, and I was not thinking clearly! I went to his mother's house two days ago, to give her my condolences. (She used to be a friend of mine, a long time ago, but she has such a cruel and manipulative nature, that I severed our relationship years ago) Anyway, she came to the door and I said how sad and sorry I was to hear the news, and she told me to save the crocodile tears and go dance on her son's grave! She obviously found out that her son and I had a relationship, and didn't like this! But she was the one who initiated this in the first place!
She used to tell me, that Michael liked me in a romantic way and even said that we should get together. Over the years she and I were friends, I did not initiate any relationship with her son. It wasn't until her and my friendship had terminated, and it was at a good five or so years after our friendship dissolved, that her son and I got together. he was forty five years old, and had a mind of his own. So therefore he was able to decide who he fell in love with. I never took him away from her, or denied him a relationship with her, but I don't think he saw her that much, and she obviously didn't bother to get in touch with him much, whilst he was alive. I think she found out about us through a neighbour, or quite possibly she discovered a phone message I had sent him, in the August.
I last saw him at the end of July, and after that there was no more contact, so I did try ringing and got no reply. In the phone message I left, I just said that I was missing him and to please get in touch and I said I loved him. I didn't even know that he had died in the September, as no one bothered to let me know. Is she angry and upset about me having a relationship with her son, and I know she is grieving, but it takes two to make a relationship, and I do know that he loved me deeply. I think she blames me for his death, and perhaps she hates me for having a relationship with him, when she obviously didn't have a very good relationship with her son. Perhaps he didn't visit her as often as he should have, but that was not down to me. She is a very manipulative person, so I don't know what she may do to me! Hopefully, she will leave me alone.
Was it wrong of me, to have had that relationship with him? I certainly don't regret the short time we had together, and I will cherish the memories I have of him, she can't take that away from me, but I can't help feeling that perhaps I shouldn't have reciprocated the relationship!
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