Rope_Wrench wrote:
... What other stories or experiences do you guys have with these kinds of doctors? How many times have they push a pill or a procedure on you that you knew in your heart was not worth the cost just to have them put pressure on you to do it anyway. And if you didn't do what they feel is obvious that there is something wrong with you?
Early in my odyssey, I had a few medical "professional" headaches. One urologist in particular told me that I didn't need a diaper, that a diaper was "overkill", and that I could "just use tissue to catch any leaks!" Talk about trying to shame me! WOW! I thought, "Are you kidding me? You have no idea!". Needless to say I was done with him real fast.
Current uro is quite good in that he stated he could run a whole bunch of tests, cause a whole bunch of discomfort and pain, and not really get to the bottom of the problem. He then asked if I was "ok with management by diapers" as opposed to trying everything under the sun with no guarantees. Since I am "ok" with things as they are (not happy about it, just "ok"), he just let things be. He ran a few baselines and then asked me to see him if things change or an urgent problem comes up (e.g., UTI). Great doc!
My chiropractor was quite professional about things. At the time, I was too ashamed to say anything in advance to him. And I was hoping he would not find out; as if that would really happen. Then, while trying to do his chiropractic adjusting, his hand kept slipping as he pressed on my nylon shirt because it was sliding on the smooth plastic of my diaper. So he lifted my shirt out of the way and pulled the belt line of my pants down. He was expecting to place his hand on the skin in the small of my back; instead, he placed his hand on the diaper backing and adjusted away. *ugh*. I was mortified. Nevertheless, he "matter-of-factually" asked if there was anything he should know. I gave him the quick run down, he noted it, and that was it. He hasn't brought it up since.
Like Tarlton mentioned, it was taxing at first. But now that a diaper is just "underwear", if a medical person gives me grief, I move on to the next. Until they've lived through the ordeal, they don't really know. On a side note, the orthopedic surgeon that did my hip replacements (which is what triggered my incon journey) recently had to have a hip replaced himself. Afterwards, he implemented a number of changes in his hip/knee replacement protocols based on his own experiences. And these are changes that his own patients and staff have been asking him to do. What a difference when he had to "live through the ordeal" himself.
I wonder if there are any urologists who are incontinent themselves ... I wonder how would they treat their patients?