www.incontinentsupport.org

I forgot that. For a while I was hating myself.I was hating what I was forced into. I dealt with it and yet I still hated it. Two months since my surgery on my leg. Nerve damage... Confidence gone. Self Respect damaged. Dignity hurt. This last month has been fairly rough on me.

But I'm finally beginning to love myself again, and I'm actually beginning to like the diapers I wear. Hey, they may not be the greatest fashion statement but I'm at the point of not caring, because I love who I am and I don't mind the diapers anymore. They pretty much became part of my own self image. So if I regain my continence again, I'll be thrilled. If not, oh well. Such is life and they're rather comfy and keep me from being embarrassed.

Call it self love or self respect; however, for me, the bottom line is that I need to wear diapers in order to function in public in daily life. For me, love is secondary. What I do love is my independence, and diapers give me that.

Bunny,

I know where you are coming from. I cycle through good times and bad times myself. I struggle with the self dignity all the time. I wonder sometimes how my wife can put up with everything that goes along with this condition. All I can say is don't get down on yourself too much. Remember you are special and created for greatness.

This condition we are struggling with is just that, a condition. It does not define us, who we are. It is a part of how we live life and interact with those around us and deal with social conditions. But it is not who you are. You are more than this. And, in hoping it is temporary, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and its not an oncoming train!