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We all have them. Those days that just aren't as good as others. And we all have those days that go exceptionally well. I've come to realize that most of what we deal with here is mental and emotional. I'm not discounting the physical aspect at all but it seems most of us here have found our own best methods and practices to dealing with the physical parts. We buy, use, carry diapers to ensure that the physical and noticeable effects of our condition are not evident. Mentally and emotionally however, we deal with so many more variables. We have questions running silently through our heads like, What is happening to me? Why can't I control this anymore? Where do I go from here? What will my family and friends think? How much do the people around me notice?

I think we have all been there at one point and we probably go back there every so often. I am so thankful for the group of people here on this site that help us (me) deal with these two aspects and these questions. We are here, all of us, for the same reason, to get support in dealing with this condition.

What is the point of this rant? Good question. I have personally been dealing with my demons associated with my condition. I have had some good experiences and some bad even over the past month. As you may know if you read the thread, I had a good experience with the acceptance of my friends not that long ago. This past weekend I had a bad experience where my one time of not planning ahead cause me and my very accepting family to have to head back home in the middle of a nice day out. I always bring spare diapers with me in case I ever need to change. Often on our days out as a family I don't need to change but I have them in case. This past weekend was the exception in that I didn't bring any spares to change into and I needed it. What a pain. But thanks to an accepting family, we made it through.

Anyway, sorry for the long post. Just had some feelings to share. I hope you can appreciate it.

msshendo, it is an honor and a privilege for me to be here for you. I'm sorry about last weekend, but I'm very happy that things went well with your friends a short while back. Here's to more good times to come.

Wetters

Thank you Wetters. It is an honor and privilege to be here too. I feel a real connection with the people on this group. The more I get to know everyone the more I am glad I found this forum.

One thing we incontinents have in common with most of the rest of humanity is that we do not need support when life is good and there are no difficulties, no challenges. But an accident, a bad diaper rash, or for me this past winter, a frozen diaper caused by shoveling snow in frigid temperatures, makes the support we give each other here so valuable. We have all been there: we have forgotten to bring our supplies along on a trip or an errand, or we have erroneosly thought our incontinence was so much under control that we did not need those supplies. Or we have been forced to deal with family, friends, and even medical professionals, who have been less than understanding. So we come here.

My colon is acting up today, so I researched a site dedicated to folks whose bowel control is defective. Wow! For some of them, every day is a daunting challenge. The folks here have made my life so much easier, and for that I am grateful.