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One of the hardest things these past few years has been reconciling how I can outwardly appear "healthy" with my increasing level of disability, and my most recent diagnoses have made that even harder in many ways. Maybe more than ever-present symptoms like pain, fatigue, and brain fog, the multiple times a day I put on a diaper might be the thing that most makes where I'm at in life real to me, even though, as far as symptoms go, incontinence is far from the worst symptom I deal with on a daily basis.
I think this
is the mental struggle that I am
still working through. I don't feel like I
belong (in a diaper). I
don't feel like I should be IC. Apart from diabetes related issues, I am ok. But this nerve damage thing is enough of a problem that it can't be ignored. To cast more doubt, I don't wet in my sleep. I wake up dry and as long as I don't dilly dally before going to the toilet, I have control. But wait too long, then control is lost. At the home and the office,
things are normal because I have ready access to the toilet. But if the bathroom is occupied, then the reality smacks me in the face again.
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This is one of the most frustrating things to me since sometimes I still feel that I'm wearing a level of protection that's unnecessary.
That
is very frustrating. If the problem was consistent, then there would be less self doubt. Sometimes I go an entire work week without an accident. I end up discarding a full grocery bag of worn dry pull-ups. This again seems so wrong! I feel like a
pretender.
With summer coming, I am now planning for outdoor events where the toilet is more than 30 seconds away. It seems so unnatural to wear a pull-up that is super thick so that I can last 4-8 hours without leaking. In my test this weekend I felt like an astronaut around my waist with everything jammed into my jeans (pull-up + PUL pants). I do need larger jeans but this isn't helping me mentally.
Best of luck on your getting a good diagnosis and some improved related health. The physics of our protection isn't complicated but the mental aspects are indeed trying. The one piece of advice that I have gleaned from this forum is the need for protection. So even though it seems like over-protection, that is to be preferred over embarrassment. That has sound logic but accepting it seems to be the trick.