I am curious about something

[johnstone]

Like many, I don't understand why anyone would want to show that he was wearing a diaper. Maybe the guy is just plain weird, or maybe he wanted to connect with another person that suffers from incontinence by proving he was telling the truth. Bottom line, his actions were still inappropriate even with the best of intentions. As far as the "obvious erection",....... has anyone considered what may "appear" as an erection may have been nothing more than diaper bulge. I agree, the only one that knows for sure is him. I am more concerned of his intentions by showing the diaper. I just don't feel that is something a "normal" person would do. I recommend you say away from that person just in case this guy is a weirdo.

[MSUSpartan]

I kind of agree with MC.

An erection is an involuntary reflex. He could have been overly excited about the whole situation, and things just got away from him. I could see someone being excited to have meet someone they felt they could safely share with, without giving thought to how inappropriate it would be to bring it up.

In terms of him noticing, I'm definitely more attuned to people wearing diapers than my is my wife. I think wearing them myself has made them part of my umwelt (self-world) in a way apart from fully continent individuals.

If you felt uncomfortable, then that's legitimate. I just don't think it was necessarily a pervert.

On a side note, how well can you see an erection under a diaper? Aside from the padding, there isn't enough room in there for my soldier to stand at attention. It can be stiff as can be, but bent over at the waist.

[LilliDew]

Right mightychipmonk, i totally agree.

I almost always follow my instincts. That is why i backed away. My problem seems to be, more often than not, feeling the need to defend or explain myself, my predicaments, or my actions.

If we happen to meet again, Ill do just that, and make sure he knows how much i love my boyfriend. I just hope though that moment never comes.

[LilliDew]

MSUspartan, i understand what your saying, but he was acknowledging his "discomfort" down below, (and not necessarily in a bad way) otherwise i wouldnt have even looked down to see it, (shape and all). Maybe it was an assumption, could have been, but I know what one looks like... it looked like "more" than a regular diaper bulge.

Its done and over with now, and i appreciate everyones feedback, but can we please just close this thread now or something?

Thank you

[optimist]

In my mind, he sounds creepy.
Even if he is genuinely incontinent, it is not normal to expose his diaper in that way.
A lot more normal reaction would be to be discreete.
And he would have been aware of his erection, and not exposed it, if he did not have an agenda..
People like that scares me..

[Porkchop]

Hi, I have a couple contradictyory thoughts about your situation.

First try not to make assumptions about the situation. True, he may be a DL, but he may not. As many of us know, our incontinecne can cause a pretty isolating situation for people. Many people don't feel comfortable, going in public or talking to other people because of thier fear that they may be noticed wearing diaper. This may be a young man, whom was feeling this loneliness, and truly wanted to connect with someone whom shares his condition. Also, not everyone has good social skills, so he may have had no idea how to truly act under the situation. Myself, prior to my incontinence, i remember several times when i was younger and talking to an attractive women, whom i was interested, and i often had no chacne with, i would get an erection, it felt awkard and uncomfortable, and i tried to do everything i could to hide it, but it happens. On the other hand he could be a pervert. I'd think about how else he acted in the conversation. Did he try to get a phone number, or or give you his phone number. Did he try to arrange other times to get together. What was he doing before he approached you. Was the diaper tucked into his waistband or hanging out of his waist band. Was he overly charming, or did he feel insincere in other ways, did you mention your long boyfriend and did he back off completely. Those may give you more clues to his purpose as well.

Secondly it is typically good to follow your instincts. Sometimes, they can lead us astray, but most of the time, they are right on. If you left feeling creeped out, then there is probably something that your brain picked up that is sending warning signals in your brain. So listen to that warning.

Best suggestion i can make at this point, If you run into him again or talk to him again, make sure to talk a lot about your boyfriend, how connected you are to him, how understanding he is, how much you love him. Bassicaly let him know without a doubt that he has no chance.

Great advice!

[kdlstar]

Are you sure it's an erection and not just extra padding or a booster pad in the diaper?
Secondly, even if it is an erection that does not necessarily mean he has a diaper or exhibitoonist fetish.
Men can get boners for a whole variety of reasons many of which are not necessarily sexual. For example guys get several erections in the night when they sleep