WetDad wrote:
Like most here, I have tried hard to stay active. I tried the disposable underwear in the beginning because the store shelves were full of that stuff. Everyone must be using it right? I quickly grew tired of having to change by removing my shoes and pants, and went to pads. Many embarrassing leaks later, the pads grew in size until they became as expensive as the diapers I was avoiding. Now I wear the diapers and do not worry at all about leaking.
This allows me to stay active at work and at home. I sail, mountain bike, and enjoy a variety of activities with our children. For work, I travel on an almost weekly basis and airport security is no big deal. They really don't care what I have on underneath.
Incontinence is nothing to suffer, I just manage it and go on living. I have made a few concessions, but I feel that they are minor. Let us know how you're doing, and no question is too weird we've all been there before.
Wetdad,
we are much alike, I ride mountain bike as well, I feel great when I really have been pushing myself. Especially as it gives me some hours in which my bladder doesn't play tricks on me due to sweating a lot during the ride.
But then everything gets back to normal.
However one question You say you travel a lot, so do I, how do you plan for travels and what about business meetings, do you change in such cases? I'm still trying to figure out what to do, how I discreetly can carry a diaper with me and change it without anyone noticing. since it's a bit suspicious when a guy takes a bag with him to the restroom....
I have not informed my employer about me dealing with incontinence, as I fear it might have a negative impact on my career. I know they are not allowed to fire you because of a disability which doesn't influence your work performance, however We all know about them finding other reasons for it....
BTW I work as a purchaser so it involves some traveling.
Until now, I have been able to deal with it by using heavier protection, but -I would rather be able to use more discrete protection instead. I'm just not mentally ready for admitting my incontinence to anyone besides my wife and doctor. It still is very embarrassing.