I've told several people since my bedwetting problems come back up again. A couple people, I've even talked in depth with about it, once I figured out they were open to listening. Helps me to explain my decision process to someone I know well, I guess. Only internet friends, mind you, there is something about the distance that helps but the both of us more at ease.
There was a really nasty situation on another forum, unrelated to incontinence, where someone found out about my problem, started running their mouth about it, making fun of me, etc, conveniently forgetting to mention that it was a medical problem. Trying to make me out to be one of those AB/DL folks I guess. Now like I said in my intro thread nothing against those people in fact if it wasn't for them I probably wouldn't have finally found a diaper that actually does what it is supposed to do. But, regardless, still upsetting.
Once I got over it and realized how pathetic a person must be if they need to make fun of someone with a disability to make themselves feel better, I realized...hmm. A bunch of people found out that I wear diapers, and I'm no worse off for it. 90% of them really just did not care. And I think there's some truth to that, most mature adults, they do not care if you are wearing briefs boxers panties or diapers. Reaction is mostly met with a shrug of the shoulders. And really I guess that is the way it should be - what difference does it make to me if someone I barely know is wearing a diaper? Big whoop.
Since then, I've not been shy about telling people. I don't go out of my way, I mean, I don't PM someone out of the blue and say "Hey, guess what, I've got a medical problem, want to hear all about it?" But I will mention it if it is relevant to the subject of conversation, if it's just between me and someone else, something private. Don't particularly want to go blabbing about it in a public forum. But a private conversation, sure. And 100% of the people I have told this to them like this, they don't care. They are not grossed out they are not judgmental, it is literally a sort of shoulder shrug reaction. Now granted I don't have to deal with them every day and if I don't want to I can just not come online and talk to them. Haven't told people I actually know IRL.
And now that I think about it, before my problems started, if someone had told me they had to wear diapers, that would have been my reaction to. Sort of a..."so? does not change how I think about you. should it matter to me that your underwear is thicker than most people's?"
So, I don't worry about it too much anymore. If someone found out IRL I would of course tell them but I'm a bit more forthcoming online.
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