gwharris11 wrote:I started being incontinent about 4 months ago following bladder neck surgery. If I am standing or active my bladder will completely empty., Sitting or laying down it stops. I have not learned a good method of dealing with this as I get my pants wet regularly.
I have depends pull ups and heavy pads. I have been using the pads during the day because I hate the thoughts of changing the pull ups in public restrooms and taking pants and shoes off. I thought I could learn to control my fluid intake and control it that way but so far I have not been consistent with predicting when I need to change pads. I am getting too where I don't want to go out because of this. I got rid of all my tan shorts and went to all blue jean because I didn't think it would show as bad. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Thanks
You will quickly learn that people don't notice. I lost bladder control about 10 years ago and progressed rapidly from pads to pull ups to tape-on diapers. I also greatly increased my water intake to reduce the smell and prevent developing other kidney/bladder problems. It seems counterintuitive because now I have to change 4-5 times a day (twice at work!), but it has become part of my routine. Nobody at work knows I wear diapers. I found a few times during the day when I can go in to the bathroom and change with very little chance of someone else coming in. Like most people who have to change in public, i've gotten very good at being stealthy and quick. A good quality diaper and a bit of planning will make a huge difference.
For reference, I use Tena Slip Active Fit Maxi during the day. They are thin and very discreet. The only significant wardrobe change I have made is that I no longer wear sweatpants/lounge pants in public without snug fitting underwer over my diaper. It's unlikey that anyone would hear the crinkle, but I can.