Excellent! Those of us who are incontinent and wearing "protection" for whatever reason seem to be conditioned by our society to think that this is something we should be ashamed of. It's not.
I have been incontinent 24/7 and have had to wear adult diapers since a radical prostatectomy in November of last year, (although for the first couple of weeks I had a Foley catheter.) I was ashamed and embarrassed by this condition but, like others here, found encouragement in learning how
not alone I am in this situation. I have now progressed from trying to hide my problem - and restricting my social and family activities - to being quite open about it. I have even posted a diary on Daily KOS about this and have been amazed at how many hundreds of people have been supportive about what I thought I needed to hide. Here it is:
https://www.dailykos.com/stories/2018/3 ... t_69685520For me the embarrassment problem was made worse because of my chronic bed wetting well into my teens. I hated that when it was part of my life and I went out of my way to hide this from my friends and schoolmates. I couldn't even discuss it with my brothers and sisters though of course they all knew about it. After I decided to stop being ashamed of something I have no control over now I even discussed it with my older brother who shared a room with me when we were kids. I asked him if the reason he never had friends sleeping over was because he was ashamed at having a little brother who wet the bed and who had to wear diapers as a teen. He responded by saying, "No, that's not why. The reason I didn't have friends stay overnight wasn't because
I was embarrassed; it was because I didn't want
you to be embarrassed." He protected his little brother and that means a lot to me.
I'm glad you told your friend. If he had laughed at you or mocked you then you would know that he really isn't your friend, right? Now you have confirmed that he is.
Congratulations!