batman381327 wrote:
I haven't told my son either. he is 23 now. yes it is stressful trying to keep it from him, but if the need comes up than I will discuss it with him. It is a medical condition and as much as I would love to have it fixed, I have come to terms this is my life now.
My sons, both over 18 now, my nephews, sister. mom and a few close friends know about my incontinence. I went on a road trip a little over a year ago with one nephew and oldest son. We all shared the same hotel room. I didn't have to stress or be concerned, embarrassed, etc. I changed in private and kept everything as private as I would at home, I changed in the bathroom, and nobody said anything or made a big deal out of it. It just was. That is how it should be with your children. They will just accept it as a fact of life and move on.
It took me a while to get past the "what if" stage but I am much happier and have far less stress in my life because I did talk to my kids early about health issues. They had a few questions but nothing embarrassing or scary. 10 minutes later my boys ran off and played with their toys like nothing was ever said. My boys never teased, got teased, etc and they never made any hurtful comments like ignorant people do. Besides helping them except that people with disabilities are still people there are no side-effects that became of it. That is a quality that everyone learns young. The younger the better.
Doug