Baby Brian wrote:
Jms, I never meant any disrespect, nor would I expect you to just go with diapers. Maybe I just misunderstood what you had said, or otherwise don't have the full picture here. Maybe we both don't.
OAB just means something is going on with your bladder, it's too general to really mean anything specific type of diagnosis. You had also said your urges before were being caused by a blockage in your urethra- right? You also said that blockage was recently removed, and you seem to be having difficulty holding your pee now- is this also correct? Obviously if you can't hold you pee at all then you aren't getting any more urges (unless you actually are able to hold it at least some, but you didn't say that).
If this is correct, then the most likely thing that has happened is your blockage (based on what you said) was acting more as a valve than your sphincter was. This allowed your sphincter to relax over time (even just a little), so that now the blockage is gone your sphincter is not as strong as it needs to or used to be. If that is the case, then it's actually a good thing since all you will need to do is re-potty train to re-strengthen your muscle. As I had said.
If not, then medications aside, there really isn't a whole lot urologist can do for you. Please trust me on this part, I have quite literally been through every possible option a urologist has in their arsenal. My own problems have also change quite a lot over the years, meaning I have had an unfortunate amount of ranged experience with nearly every single urological problem out there. This is not a joke or understatement either. In addition to this, I found most urologist have little or no idea what they are really even doing. Seriously, have you seen how much guessing and "see if this works" they do? It's no even remotely limited to just me either as I've talked and chatted with a great deal of others. I had to educate myself on it all as a result of my (and their) problems over the years, and while I do not have a degree I am certain I know just as much many urologists out there since I've personally had to educate a bunch of them.
Again, the advice I gave was only based on what little you've mentioned here, and with some logical deductive reasoning, combined with the fair chance I could have misunderstood what you said, then absolutely yes I could be wrong. Still, it's not fair for you to say that I said you should just go with diapers any ways. Especially since I never said that. I merely gave the advice that IF diapers end up being need, that situation is not as bad as it could be.
Hi Brian,
Well, where should I start....
I start with myself and my symptoms.
I have frequent urination's, some end up in my pants due to sudden urges which are hard, next to impossible to control, my bladder signals "I need to go NOW NOW, and without much warning my bladder releases immediately" regardless of the situation, where I am, what I'm doing sitting, standing, laying down, driving etc. sometimes when I get a bit of warning, since not not all urges to wee, come so fast / strong, I have a couple of minutes to locate a rest room (I actually watched my clock a few times just to get a sense on how long time I have before an accident happens - and it's counted in minutes, so yes, I wear protection aka diapers / pull ups depending on the situation I know I'll be in during the day, if I have meetings I use a tape on product, if just a regular day, I'm using pull ups, as I also have noticed I tend to dribble / have small leakages. In fact I have noticed that in situations where I get a bit of warning, my bladder sends a strong signal that it need to go, and occasionally the signal goes away - however from past experience I have learned, that I better head to the restroom straight away when the first warning goes even though the urge subsides again (May be bladder spasm), since when my bladder signals next time which can be 1-2-3-4-5-10 minutes later, I have little to no time to counter it.
In regard to the surgery, my urologist believed the blockage I had removed was causing my bladder to squeeze harder to empty itself, meaning part of the reason for my bladder going into overdrive was the blockage - however they found out during the surgery, that the blockage wasn't that big, 2-5 mm in length., my prostate is also slightly enlarged which again affect my bladder, so the reasons for my bladders bad behavior is not a single issue but more a series of issues - however I have already mentioned to my doctor that there's no chance of me approving a bladderneck surgery, since there's a high chance it will leave me impotent, then I'd rather deal with incontinence.....pest or cholera..
Anyway that's my background and part of the reason I reacted to your way of addressing my problem, as I could just "re potty train" I never considered myself as
not potty trained, I know very well that peeing your pants is not ok, and still I have to accept at least for the moment, that I am wetting myself hence why I wear protection to avoid embarrassing situations when out and about having wet pants / or a puddle on the floor. I don't consider diapers a bad thing, if you have a genuine need for them, as they help you carrying on having a job etc.